Category: Adulting

I’m on a Selfish Sabbatical

If you ask me for anything July through August 2020, I will answer — I’ve actually been on a Selfish Sabbatical (SFSB) for years. But it’s been a focused, very niche SFSB. To deal with the high-class problem of constant variations of asks to get coffee, pick my brain, grab lunch, or hear my story Read more…

10 simple steps to being a sexy vixen

You know when you exit something at the top of its game? Cause you don’t want to exit any less than top? And it’s right and perfect and you’re so glad you did? And then two years later, you’re like, “I still haven’t been Mimi from RENT on stage. WTF?!” And since you can’t sing, Read more…

What to do when you get rejected

An email I got recently —  10:27 AM, to bcc: Saya Salutations! [blah blah blah] We got some stellar submissions this year (including yours!), and while we would have loved to have all of them presented, we had to narrow down the field. Unfortunately, your talk wasn’t selected this year, but we appreciated and were Read more…

“I’m looking for a new job. Can you help?”

The inquiry I get the most, from friends and strangers,  is some form of: “I’m looking for a job. Wondering if you can offer some guidance?”   Yes, yes I can.   Job Search Guidance Host a comfy event Have a dinner party with people from all walks of life, people from different circles, with connected, Read more…

This year, you can actually take action on my great advice

Last year, to much fanfare, ohhhs and ahhhs, “I’m doing this next year!”, I shared a Thanksgiving lesson applicable to everyday life. But it was the day before Thanksgiving, so a bit late for most folks to do anything with my life-changing insight. This year, I gotchu. Consider this your well in advance, “for the Read more…

A simple way to find some right when everything feels wrong

People often ask me for tips on keeping one’s head up and on plugging along — usually pertaining to the self-employed, entrepreneurial, do your own thing path — and for comfort when considering leaving behind a Golden Handcuffs job. The job that on paper is fantastic. The salary. The title. The swanky office. The benefits. Read more…

Who wins the perk game? 9 to 5ers or self-employeds?

I love lists. I love being self-employed. I love hearing all the “Are you kidding me?!” perks of my 9 to 5 friends. Love in an “envious, why am I riding the self-employed rollercoaster, maybe should I go back to 9 to 5” way. Context: I come from four years in the nonprofit world followed Read more…

How to say no to a nice request

Life of Yes℠ Disclaimer If you take anything away from this, let it be: “You do you.”   These are my thoughts, my opinions, what works for me. You may disagree. You may do the complete opposite. Cool, cool. I’m not saying you’re wrong; I’m not saying I’m right. My way isn’t the way; it’s Read more…